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I concur with all the "grain of salt" folks.
I'm an IXXJ (I swap back and forth at will on the middle two) but most often I'm an INFJ.
Ratbastid is an ESTP. POLAR opposite on every aspect.
We have been together for almost 19 years and married for almost 15.
I think compatibility has little to do with your "type" and more to do with the expression of that type and your awareness of how your "type" drives you toward adaptive or maladaptive behaviors and patterns.
It's also important to have room for the other person to be who they are and recognize the other person's strengths. One reason we work so well together is that we truly complement each other. I recognize that my compulsion to make lists and spreadsheets and plans can be overwhelming and annoying, so there are times when I just have to listen to ratbastids "que sera sera" attitude and let things ride. There are times when he recognizes that crunching data and putting things in order calms my anxiety and lets me run with it. I (try to) keep us from losing important details, and ratbastid tries to keep our life from being rigid and no fun.
The type is not a recipe or a guideline or a justification, it's a descriptor, a microscope for examining your own motivations and tendencies.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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