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Cynthetiq · 05-13-2010, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by romanticqueen

Thank you all for your replies.
This doctor is actually a primary care doctor, not a psychologist...though his questions do seem odd for me.
As for me concerned for my privacy, I do not feel comfortable asking about me and my whole entire family's ethinicity, even my parent's ethnic background. Many people don't like to bring race up, expecially when you're concerned they might treat you based on their prejudice against a certain race, which sadly, still happens. What's the doctor's concen anyway, if my children are my husband's or not, or if my husband is from a certain ethnic background or not. That's simply prying.

Yes, specialists don't see patients without referrals, so it means I'd have to change doctors.
That's odd, doctors can actually refuse to give referrals! What guarantees the next doctor I find, if I change doctors, won't do the same. I'll be searching forever for a doctor if they all turn out this way...
I personally know my skin better that the doc and I know it is not normal and I really need to see a dermatologist, yet the doctor refused to give me a referral and is pressuring me to use his prescription, which I already know from experience, will only make matters worse for my already inflamed skin.

No, out of politeness, I did not want to sound rude and ask why he's asking all those questions especialyl he didn't even let me say anything other than answer.

You could easily take his prescription and never fill it. Go back and see him again, after 2 days and tell him that the prescription is not working and that you want to see a dermatologist.

As far as the questions, it's standard to get as much and to give as much information as possible. Most doctors only get to see a patient for about 15 minutes and the talking is not all 15 minutes. There are many things that are predispositions that Charlataan posted. Some things are hereditary and it's important to know these things before it's too late.

What ultimately is more comfortable is one that you feel comfortable with and that when prompted or asked questions you don't feel so defensive. This is why I tend to have female doctors as I'm more comfortable with them than with male doctors.