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Originally posted by BlueBongo
... I just like to work through the things that are bothering me on my own before I vocalize anything, and sometimes it does take a while to figure it all out.... the initial problem, why it made me upset, and then the simple solution. During this short time span I really don't have a desire to communicate what is wrong because I am "working" through it....!
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i'm the same way sometimes.
something may be bothering me a given moment, but often it's just my own issue that i need to sort out within myself and just take care of it, then get over it. and talking to someone else hmm, i guess it helps sometimes, but other times it's *not* what i need to do, esp. when i *kno* it's jsut me being silly or insecure or pissed or whatever. if it's purely _my_ problem, i don't like to 'bother' or trouble someone else about it.
i dunno, sometimes i just set things aside for the moment and get back to them when i have a few moments alone to sort it out (and then sometimes by then, it's gone anyways..)
but there are those times when it's just obvious something's 'wrong' and i can't hide or set it aside...i dunno, i usually just try saying 'is nothing needing discussion atm, pls give me time to see if i can get it straight'...
but, inevitably, it seems to be the nature of relationships, that i end up talking about it anyways.
and i dunno, would likely happen the same if the situ were reversed, so...
*shrug*