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Shauk · 05-01-2010, 10:23 PM

OK, to rephrase, I'm entirely interesting to myself.

The music, technology, games, movies, flirting with geekdom, balanced with doing outdoorsy stuff once in a while, camping, BBQ get togethers, a night on the town, dinner & drinks with friends, etc..

2 girls almost simultaneously decide they want attention,

Girl A> Found me online, semi local, Similar story of travel/abandonment upon arrival relationship history, etc.. Came on really strong (yay nudity) and I rolled with it, I get the feeling she feels overextended/out of character by the whole thing and she's gone in to shy-mode. Likes to talk to me a lot though, Starting to feel like maybe she needs a friend more than a boyfriend. Several more hours in to this one because of it I think.... Warning signs on this one seem to be that she only got out of her last relationship a month and a half ago.

Girl B> Acquaintance of an acquaintance, Don't really know much about her, much less the acquaintance, Local, better looking than girl A, and by far more interesting to talk to, despite the shorter interactions. I accredit this to the fact that I've always been kind of the "opposites attract" sort of person. She comes across more interested & less needy than Girl A as well.

Obviously I'm leaning towards girl B, but....

Thing is I keep running in to the same problem with both of them. Basically I'm trying to find the right questions to ask and tend to wind up in a 4 hour conversation about nothing.

I don't want to rule either one out too soon by not figuring out the right stuff, I guess I'm pessimistic (or realistic) enough to figure neither one is probably my perfect pick.

I guess it just comes down to: I don't know either one that well.

It doesn't help that they both decided to zero in on me when my life is a clusterfucked whirlwind of confusion.

What do YOU talk about with people that you don't know?

05-01-2010, 10:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
Shauk Confused Adult Location: Spokane, WA	My god, I feel so boring. What the hell is wrong with my date(s)? OK, to rephrase, I'm entirely interesting to myself. The music, technology, games, movies, flirting with geekdom, balanced with doing outdoorsy stuff once in a while, camping, BBQ get togethers, a night on the town, dinner & drinks with friends, etc.. 2 girls almost simultaneously decide they want attention, Girl A> Found me online, semi local, Similar story of travel/abandonment upon arrival relationship history, etc.. Came on really strong (yay nudity) and I rolled with it, I get the feeling she feels overextended/out of character by the whole thing and she's gone in to shy-mode. Likes to talk to me a lot though, Starting to feel like maybe she needs a friend more than a boyfriend. Several more hours in to this one because of it I think.... Warning signs on this one seem to be that she only got out of her last relationship a month and a half ago. Girl B> Acquaintance of an acquaintance, Don't really know much about her, much less the acquaintance, Local, better looking than girl A, and by far more interesting to talk to, despite the shorter interactions. I accredit this to the fact that I've always been kind of the "opposites attract" sort of person. She comes across more interested & less needy than Girl A as well. Obviously I'm leaning towards girl B, but.... Thing is I keep running in to the same problem with both of them. Basically I'm trying to find the right questions to ask and tend to wind up in a 4 hour conversation about nothing. I don't want to rule either one out too soon by not figuring out the right stuff, I guess I'm pessimistic (or realistic) enough to figure neither one is probably my perfect pick. I guess it just comes down to: I don't know either one that well. It doesn't help that they both decided to zero in on me when my life is a clusterfucked whirlwind of confusion. What do YOU talk about with people that you don't know?