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The "Don't act classy, be classy" school of thought is entirely true.
When I was hitting the point you're in, I stopped and thought about what I liked to see done in public for manners, and what i disliked. I picked one thing I liked a week and started adding it to my behaviors.
As a result, I'm a little odd. I'd been brought up to stand when women enter the room and offer to pull out there chairs, which stuck with me. I added bowing to people (I have a number of bows, from actual respectful bows to extravagant almost mocking things that can be fun to pull out.) Some people find it silly or annoying, but I like it. I like Victorian mannerisms, and enjoy bringing them out in public. It's like a lost art. I even carry calling cards, and have a salver next to the quaich on the back of my door, ready for any arriving guest. I often thank people for things they didn't even consciously think about doing for me. When you put some sincerity behind it (and people can tell if you're being sincere, or just throwing it out as habit) it often surprises people.
I think the biggest step to being classy is to be gracious. Stop and think about what people are doing for you, and genuinely be thankful for it. Think about what you might do for people around you, and do it before they ask. Go for those, and everything else will fall into place.
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Don't mind me. I'm just releasing the insanity pressure from my headvalves.
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