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The real question is, can you be happy now?

If you are dating or in a relationship, and you feel happy, and like you are enjoying connecting with your new gf/s, and, in short, that your obsession with your ex is confined solely to your dick, then I think you're OK.

Look, I have some exes and a couple of almost-was's that I still sometimes j/o thinking about. But I love my wife, and I am happy, and I wouldn't want to leave her for anyone. I just sometimes like fantasizing about fucking someone else. There's nothing wrong with that.

But if your obsession is serious-- if your fantasies are not just leverage to raise the drawbridge, as it were-- but your heart is involved, and you miss your ex, and you want to get back with her...then you're in trouble. If this is the case, you have got to shake this chick like a bad flu bug. You gotta cut back on the videogames and weed-- advice I rarely give-- and you gotta do some physical activity to help burn her out of your system. And you have got to get laid. Hook up, find a fuck buddy, make a FWB, start dating, whatever you gotta do. But you gotta give your dick something to wash the taste of your ex off.

Lusty feelings are OK. Yearny, pitiful feelings, not so much. You can do this.

Just know where you're at.

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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.

(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)