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Originally Posted by Plan9
If we're all "damaged," then nobody is damaged.
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That's like saying if we were all superheroes, we'd all be normal. But that wouldn't change the fact that we had powers above and beyond an actual normal human being.
You yourself just mentioned that we have damage of varying degrees, that that's the issue some of us need to deal with. The 16-year-old in Beverly Hills who screams hatespeak at her family because her Porsche Cayenne is "Meteor Grey" instead of the "Macadamia Metallic" she wanted has different issues from the kid in Afghanistan with dysentery who can't stop having nightmares since his younger brother died of it two years ago.
However, that Beverly Hills "angel" certainly has issues. And it's completely normal to have them. We're odd beings when it comes to psychology. Both decadence and poverty have negative effects on us.
To say that none of us is damaged because we all are kinda paves over the fact that we all have to deal with our situations in our own way; they're not all the same.
I think that itself is a cop out, which is why I was a bit confused about your first comment. The second comment about individual growth we both agree on.
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Originally Posted by Plan9
Let's say she was in an abusive relationship with some dickhead. And let's say she's afraid that she's developed habits that would make a guy notice she's been in an abusive relationship. Now let's say she tells guys that she's been in an abusive relationship after X period of time. This particular brand of hard knocks isn't a whole lot different than her telling the guy she's saving her virginity for marriage or that she refuses to date someone who isn't Catholic or that she used to do a lot of coke at college. It's just another relationship trait checklist with assorted "must have / don't care / dealbreaker" items.
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Well, this is what I mean by things being used as a point of judgement. Her future relationship candidates are going to have their own damn issues.