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Originally Posted by katyg
and for being abusive myself - I am usually a very calm and kind person but he used drugs a lot and it would upset me to the point where I would get angry too. I couldn't hurt him with my fists, or scare him, but I did shout at him, tell him how unhappy I was etc etc.
Were we both in the wrong?
I encouraged him to seek counselling, I tried always to talk through our problems but often he would stonewall me and that would just be unbearable and terribly lonely.
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No, what you describe isn't remotely abuse. It's what human beings do when they care about another person, it's normal healthy communication in an extremely stressful situation.