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We are what we do. If your past experiences have shaped who you are today into a person with attitudes and behaviors that are less conducive to attracting a quality partner. So, regarding the OP? Well, yeah. You're damaged. You'll blanket yourself in a aura of bad vibes. People can see it in the way you walk, people can feel it in the conversations you have or don't have. Sometimes life breaks you down. That's okay. Just patch yourself up, go again.
But if you take all of your past experiences and use them as a tool to broaden and fortify yourself as a person, you'll exude the kind of strength that attracts the kind of people you want to be with. You have to believe that you are more than where you were yesterday. You have to have a purpose.
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As far as guys asking you if you've ever been in an abusive relationship before... I don't see that as too common. I've never asked a girl that before. Like I said above, if you act like you've been in that kinda relationship, the guy will know it. It doesn't require a consultation with Ms. Cleo to see that a girl's been beaten before and hasn't gotten over it. In summary, guys probably aren't worried about what happened to you, just how you act now.
Last edited by Plan9; 04-10-2010 at 12:28 PM..
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