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Is there such a thing as damaged goods?
I have recently come out of a long term relationship that ended up being abusive. My boyfriend smoked a lot of cannabis and eventually became physically and emotionally abusive, I stayed with him for 5 years and held out hope everytime he apologised and promised to get help and it led to a very unhappy ending.
I've been talking to some of my male friends and a lot of them (who aren't aware of the extent of the abuse in my last relationship because they know the guy and probably wouldn't believe me) say that they often ask a girl that they start dating if she has suffered an abusive relationship before. I'm assuming that it really might put any guy off you and make him think less of you?
I don't know, right now I am still very much in shock that somebody who purports to love you can then punch you so I won't be in the dating game for some time, if not never. But am I now 'damaged goods'? I had a termination during the relationship and mental and physical abuse and I'm worried it's changed me for ever and I won't be attractive if I'm honest about it in the future.
Thanks
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