Cynthetiq

I'm childfree and I choose to be that way. It's a choice that I made in my current relationship early on in our relationship.

Previous ones were all bent on the steps... hook up, after X years of dating, move in, after X years of living together get married, then have kids....

Yeah not for me.

It wasn't always that way. In my younger years I wanted to have a family so bad it tainted how I saw women. I gave up many things because I was stubborn in thinking that if I couldn't do this with MY family (not my father's family) then I didn't want it. This included things like Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc.

In my late 20s I learned to appreciate that I didn't take that path. I am now quite happy to be in my 40s and not with any children. My wife and I have a vibrant full life of travel and serendipity.

From time to time, I sometimes wonder, but I'll tell you when the parents talk about us having kids, I remind them of our choices. We live in NYC, it's not a place I would want to raise a child, and quite frankly we love to live here so I'm not giving up living here.

It's your life not theirs.

If my wife changes her mind, which she's free to do, it would suck. But I cannot fault someone for wanting something different in life. It's what makes life, life.

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