This entire thread is one of the most honest, and helpful I've seen in a long while. We're glad you're here neveragain (yeah!!)...and there are ideas & insights given here that cover then entire gamet of loving your man and staying healthy and happy in your relationship. Relationships DO ebb and flow but it's smart not to make snap judgements and sometimes not to get into the big discussion all too often. You sound lucky and smart.
he's a lucky dude, too