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Originally Posted by neurockt
I agree that the direct approach can be a nice change of pace, but I also think that it can be way overdone. I'm all for a woman who comes over and starts a chat, but if she becomes clingy or overly flirty, I'm going to balk. All sorts of questions about her motives pop into my head, chief of which is "if she's willing to be this overt with me, I imagine she's like this with many men." There's a happy medium between taking the initiative and being too upfront.
Also, I wonder if there's a disconnect between what us guys are saying we like and what we actually prefer. This was a scientific study, and I'm more likely to believe results than what we SAY we want. The other thing I'm curious about is whether TFP members are more progressive in general than the population featured in the study.
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I think the results here might be due to a more progressive mindset but at the same time the world has and is changing and the roles men and women play these days have changed with it. Older customs die out with each new generation and in today's world men and women are considered equal in every walk of life (as they have been for awhile), why should the dating scene be any different? I think its incredibly common these days to see women take that initiative and personally I don't really mind...I'm not sure if that makes me progressive or if I'm just accepting what the world around is really like and taking it for what it is.