If you would like this posted in the Ladies Lounge so only women may reply, you can always PM one of the helpful female-type staff members.
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I'm not a woman, but I've got extensive experience with online dating. What you have in your profile and your first contact message are important.
I'll let some actual TFP females answer this before I go off on my
Blooprintz for the Datingz on the Intarwebz again.
You may want to check out
this thread while you wait.