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I would say it's usually a bad idea to keep having a physical relationship with your ex straight after the break-up unless you can clearly see she is emotionally stable enough to handle it. Otherwise, you are jerking her around emotionally, even if it's unintentional. If you had made a cleaner break back in October, now it would be 3 months later and no-one could fault you for meeting someone new at this point.
Fact is, you kept her around physically and emotionally, until you met someone else to replace her as your only close friend. Though you were telling her you guys were over and could never be together again, your actions were confusing her emotionally.
I don't see a good way to say this to her, but if it were me I'd prefer to be told the truth. Hard as it may be, being definitively cast off and then also being deceived as to why, would make me think you lacked even the minimal respect for me as a friend to at least be honest. Also, how will she understand why you kept her around this long then suddenly switch off for no apparent reason? In this kind of situation, I have learned, there is always a reason, and it's not usually abstract.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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