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little_tippler · 02-04-2010, 02:12 AM

I would say they rarely work unless people really understand the dedication necessary for them to finally find a way to not be LDR anymore.

And also, I think they occur because it's not really something you choose. Would anyone in their right mind choose to love someone who is very far away most of the time? No. So, if you can avoid being in one, I'd say it's better for you. Sometimes it just happens, and though in some cases you can fight it, other times you just want to give it a try with that person that you throw caution out the window.

I know there are millions of people right on my doorstep. For me, I don't click with the first person I stumble upon, or the first guy who shows an interest in me. So when I do meet someone that I click with in a strong way, I go for it. LDR or not. Right now, I hope that I don't have any more of those because I don't know if I can trust another guy in a LDR.

I also feel that LDRs have happened to me a couple of times because of my upbringing. Having been in an international school with people from all parts of the world, makes it so I have a lot of friends abroad. I also like to speak english very much so I tend to seek out people who also have 'an english tendency'. I have very rarely met a truly portuguese man I want to date. There is just something about the demeanour and thought process...I wish I didn't have this problem. It makes it very hard for me to meet someone I connect with.

So my answer is, avoid it if you can. If you're in one, be clear on what you are doing and what it means.

02-04-2010, 02:12 AM	#30 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	I would say they rarely work unless people really understand the dedication necessary for them to finally find a way to not be LDR anymore. And also, I think they occur because it's not really something you choose. Would anyone in their right mind choose to love someone who is very far away most of the time? No. So, if you can avoid being in one, I'd say it's better for you. Sometimes it just happens, and though in some cases you can fight it, other times you just want to give it a try with that person that you throw caution out the window. I know there are millions of people right on my doorstep. For me, I don't click with the first person I stumble upon, or the first guy who shows an interest in me. So when I do meet someone that I click with in a strong way, I go for it. LDR or not. Right now, I hope that I don't have any more of those because I don't know if I can trust another guy in a LDR. I also feel that LDRs have happened to me a couple of times because of my upbringing. Having been in an international school with people from all parts of the world, makes it so I have a lot of friends abroad. I also like to speak english very much so I tend to seek out people who also have 'an english tendency'. I have very rarely met a truly portuguese man I want to date. There is just something about the demeanour and thought process...I wish I didn't have this problem. It makes it very hard for me to meet someone I connect with. So my answer is, avoid it if you can. If you're in one, be clear on what you are doing and what it means. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918 Last edited by little_tippler; 02-04-2010 at 02:18 AM..