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surferlove007 · 01-23-2010, 11:15 PM

Well of course people know my story...long distance can work. But I agree, having a plan for the future along with a timeline for that plan are crucial. James and I did the long distance thing, we dated a year previous to doing it. Ultimately things didn't work out because of later life decisions and understandings. Throughout it was expensive, time-consuming, and pricey. I don't regret any of it. We loved eachother very much. We still respect eachother immensly. It takes commitment and trust along with patience.

After going through that I promised myself I would never do another ldr, simply because I'm in a city where I don't need to. Now I'm faced with the possibility of my current boyfriend to be transferring schools to UT in Austin, two hours away. I would do it again and make it work, only for the fact that he says he knows it would work and believes in us. I did once, I could do it again.

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Well of course people know my story...long distance can work. But I agree, having a plan for the future along with a timeline for that plan are crucial. James and I did the long distance thing, we dated a year previous to doing it. Ultimately things didn't work out because of later life decisions and understandings. Throughout it was expensive, time-consuming, and pricey. I don't regret any of it. We loved eachother very much. We still respect eachother immensly. It takes commitment and trust along with patience.

After going through that I promised myself I would never do another ldr, simply because I'm in a city where I don't need to. Now I'm faced with the possibility of my current boyfriend to be transferring schools to UT in Austin, two hours away. I would do it again and make it work, only for the fact that he says he knows it would work and believes in us. I did once, I could do it again. Wanting to do it is another story. But I feel strong enough about this man to put myself through that again. Let is be clear though, if it could be avoided it would be.

01-23-2010, 11:15 PM	#28 (permalink)
surferlove007 Junkie	Well of course people know my story...long distance can work. But I agree, having a plan for the future along with a timeline for that plan are crucial. James and I did the long distance thing, we dated a year previous to doing it. Ultimately things didn't work out because of later life decisions and understandings. Throughout it was expensive, time-consuming, and pricey. I don't regret any of it. We loved eachother very much. We still respect eachother immensly. It takes commitment and trust along with patience. After going through that I promised myself I would never do another ldr, simply because I'm in a city where I don't need to. Now I'm faced with the possibility of my current boyfriend to be transferring schools to UT in Austin, two hours away. I would do it again and make it work, only for the fact that he says he knows it would work and believes in us. I did once, I could do it again. ---------- Post added at 01:15 AM ---------- Previous post was at 01:13 AM ---------- Well of course people know my story...long distance can work. But I agree, having a plan for the future along with a timeline for that plan are crucial. James and I did the long distance thing, we dated a year previous to doing it. Ultimately things didn't work out because of later life decisions and understandings. Throughout it was expensive, time-consuming, and pricey. I don't regret any of it. We loved eachother very much. We still respect eachother immensly. It takes commitment and trust along with patience. After going through that I promised myself I would never do another ldr, simply because I'm in a city where I don't need to. Now I'm faced with the possibility of my current boyfriend to be transferring schools to UT in Austin, two hours away. I would do it again and make it work, only for the fact that he says he knows it would work and believes in us. I did once, I could do it again. Wanting to do it is another story. But I feel strong enough about this man to put myself through that again. Let is be clear though, if it could be avoided it would be.