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lulu makes a good point. If you're as serious as you say you are, then this shouldn't matter as much as it does. Sounds to me like you're not serious but you want to be, and this other dude poses as an unknown threat. Here's the deal, though. You're dating an independent woman and you have to either be comfortable with her personal decisions or you find someone who puts aside a bit more consideration for you. Your mention of her being religious sets off a few alarms in my head. Many religious girls I've known have been very naive about the affections men show to them. Even when it comes to kissing and such, they're filled with so much anxiety that they don't really understand that kissing leads to sex, leads to relationships, leads to exclusivity. I could be stupidly generalizing here, but I'm getting visions of a friend's ex-roommate - this girl was platonic friends with this guy for years; they were closer than you could imagine. She saw him as just a friend while the guy was head over heels for her. When he finally came out and showed his affections for her, it got a little weird. Your "competition" could be like that guy - the platonic friend who she has binned in the "friend" department for eternity. He may fancy her (why else would he be all over her FB page?) but she might not think anything of him beyond the attention he gives her. So, it is your choice to either trust her and act maturely or go find some situation that doesn't make you insecure.
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