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So I have been seeing this girl since October, things are going great, we are starting to get more serious, kissed her at new years, blah blah blah, you know the deal. I like her a lot, probably more than I should at this point in the new relationship. She said she made a new years resolution to be more fun, more spontaneous. So she tells me that she is going to a different city this weekend, for the whole weekend. "Cool" I think, sounds like fun for her.
I expressed to her that I was worried, its scary being in a new town all by yourself. No worries she says, she won't be alone, she is taking a friend with her. Oh, I ask, who is going? Mind you, I have not met her friends yet, but she has told me about them. "Chris" she says.... Chris. The guy that the night before I had asked her about, because he is all over her facebook account, tons of comments, posts, the works. Turns out they dated a while ago, I'm not sure of the time frame, but I think it was like a year or so, she said that they never had sex. They were friends before, and they remained friends after they dated. She tells me that she is not sexually attracted to him, and that he is just a good friend. Okay, I say. I have a problem with this. Remember, I have never met this guy...
I probe deeper, and I find out that they are going to share a hotel room... WOAH... what the fuck? She is a very religious person, and I really want to try to trust her, but there is an extent to what I can deal with. I sent her a long ass text message last night, basically saying I can't deal with this, I don't want you to go. It is the edge of what I can deal with, with someone I am dating. If you decide to go, don't bother looking me up when you get back. Am I wrong here? How can this be justified? The thing that bothers me more is that I don't think that she would have told me he was going unless I really asked her about it. This just screams bad to me, it makes me physically ill thinking about it. I feel it's disrespectful to me, and I don't think she gets it. I asked her, "would "Chris" be going with you, if he was seeing someone?" she never texted me back.

How do I express how bad this makes me feel? I want to continue the relationship, but I don't think she gets it. Maybe she's just not that into me, so it doesn't matter that much to her? Even if they went together, shared a room, didn't sleep in the same bed together, and absolutely nothing happened that would have made me uncomfortable, I still am not okay with it. I just want to scream FUCK into the night and be done with it all. What would you guys do? Date women that don't have fucking guy friends is what I am thinking.