Baraka_Guru

I'm very sorry to hear about this trying time of yours.

Dealing with a high amount of stress is difficult when you cannot remove the stressors, such as is your case.

Here are a few things I use myself:

Deep breathing: be sure to take moments where you concentrate on really filling up and expanding your lungs. When we are stressed, we often draw shallow breaths. This lack of oxygen only makes things worse. If you drink coffee, don't let your intake increase as a reaction to your situation. The additional caffeine will only aggravate your stress. Consider cutting back instead.

Vitamin C: sometimes I drop 500 to 1,000 mg. Studies have shown that 1,000 mg before stressful events have cut the production of cortisol (the "stress hormone") in subjects.

Herbal tea: I recommend chamomile and passionflower, that is, if you aren't allergic to them. They're calming/relaxing (i.e. good for anxiety). Drink regularly throughout the day; the hydration will help much as well.

Eat! When we're stressed, we often lose our appetites. Unfortunately, a lack of both macro- and micronutrients hinder our abilities to deal with stress. Be sure not to carb/fat-load. Balance with proteins, as they are all important for your body's defenses. The last thing you need right now is to get sick with all this worrying. People need you right now.

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Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön

Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot