Anonymous Member

I'm protective of my personal space & my home
If I invite you to my home, I feel like I'm opening up to you or revealing myself a bit.
I expect certain behavior from my friends

Have you ever invited a group of people over simply to have 2 people show up, and then unknowingly add salt to the wound by asking where everyone else is?

Is there any feeling quite like a failed social event hosted under your name?

I've been invited to the occasional outing. Some of my friends n such, birthday parties, etc...

Pretty easy for them to get 10+ people to show up it seems. I invite those same people to my place and for some reason it's a dud.

I'm starting to feel completely alone at times.

Latest case in point happens tonight.

Back in September, me and my friend wanted to catch the showing of "9" when it hit theaters, but he simply had no time in the afternoons/nights to go and see it, or he was short on money, so it never happened. He was kind of bummed. Me, being the thoughtful friend, months later grabbed it on the media center and invited him to come watch it when he got a chance.

To elaborate: my friend and I live in the same apartment complex, he's a mere 15 second walk from my door.

He never showed up, I kept reminding him every other week or so that I still had it if he wanted to watch it, and I didn't watch it because I figured if he was going to come watch it anyway, no point in watching it twice in case I didn't like it.

Now, granted, this wasn't a main "focus" for me at any point, I wasn't obsessing over him watching the movie, or rushing, I mean this is just something that's been bouncing in and out of our interactions over the last 3 months.

If he had never come and saw it, I wouldn't have minded really.

Well, apparently what happened tonight just kinda cast my friend and our situation in a new light that made me question my perspective of this whole thing.

Uninvited, I just bounce over and see what he's up to and I pretty much walked in on him, a bunch of our other neighbors, and his roommate watching this movie on their TV.

All of a sudden I just felt kinda... bad.

Not sure what it was. I was there to see my friend and all I could focus on is that he pretty much invited all these people to watch a movie that he knew I had sitting at my place, on a much nice television (big screen theater and all) and they're just doing there thing on a little 25" tube tv.

I just felt unwelcome at that point and left. I feel like he's unappreciative of my friendship or the things I contribute to that friendship.

Been friends with the guy for over 10 years now and it felt like the one friendship I could count on to be there, but then I realized, he hasn't come over once in the 6+ month I've been his neighbor.

I'm really just upset about the whole thing and I'm not even really sure why.