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Originally Posted by pan6467
OP:
IF the weight is the only issue, I would try to work around it. Weight can be lost. IF she mentally stimulates you, shares similar goals and ideas (which is far more important than looks) and in every way except weight makes you happy, stay with her.
Maybe she is trying to lose it, maybe she put it on recently (the Nuvo Ring, I know can put massive weight on fast)... you may look for an opportunity and try to talk about it. Go on a diet together. Work through it.
Fat people can lose weight and come out looking really good. You may end up dating someone who is "perfect" and into the relationship she gains all kinds of weight.
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You can't change but you can be the stimulus and inspirational help to their change.
Now, if you try to change them without their truly wanting it, it becomes a fool's game and resentments build. The change has to be truly what that person wants.
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Fool's game indeed. Women would save themselves a lot of stress if they didn't go after assholes and douchebags expecting to change them and chose their mates more wisely. On a side note that's why I don't date smokers either. I'll be friends with them but have no desire to date them. I've tried dating a few expecting to change get them to stop smoking and never works out.