Incidentally, one of my best friends is a lady who I never even considered playing hide the love sausage with. Even when we were both single and lonely, it was mutually understood without a word being said that such things were not to happen between us.
I can't speak for her, but I know my reason -- she's 5'11", and at the time weighed 115 lbs. There's no denying she's a pretty girl, but I'd be afraid to get rough with someone like that, lest they snap like a twig.
The lover I ended up with isn't fat, but she's not a twig either. And that's the way I like it.
(The friend, by the way, ended up happily monogamous with a guy who is 6'7"; they now have a child together and are trying for another.)
I don't believe you can have a satisfying sexual relationship with someone you're not attracted to. You can have a relationship of some form or another; if you get along so well with this gal maybe she's destined to become a great friend. You can seek mutual comfort, although I prefer not to do such things. But to have that proper relationship, with real sex and intimacy, the two participants have to have physical chemistry as well as emotional.
So, for the third time: Don't waste your time and hers out of some misguided idea that you have to be politically correct. It's not fair to either of you.
Regarding online dating, it's a well-known fact that nothing on the internet is true. Caveat Emptor applies.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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