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I usually give the benefit of doubt, but I tend to expect more from other people. I forget, they only see, what I let them see in me, that's often not much. A handshake tells a lot, the way they look at you or avoid your look - or where they look at you...
It also depends on the situation, where I meet new people. Some of them propably have to play a certain role for work, they later turn out to be nicer people than I first thought.
Years ago, I attended a course for adult students. The new teacher came in 15 minutes late, looking very busy rushed in front of the class while undressing the jacket and searching something from his pockets. He didn't look at the students at all, but kept talking all the time. He didn't actually say he's sorry for being late, mentioned some excuses about the traffic, I think, then said how important the first 20 seconds and first 20 words are in making an impression. Then he started the course and talked about a totally wrong subject.
He didn't impress us much and that's what he was like the rest of the year, until they replaced him. He was continuously late, leaving us mostly study on our own, only interested in easy money.
Slick people don't get easily off my list of unpleasant people. Even so, when I get to know people better, they often have something likable about them, those buggers... but I have to draw the line to people, who manipulate others.
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