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CinnamonGirl · 11-04-2009, 01:01 PM

I've noticed a tendency to lean that way...but only with men. Everything's fine, until he compliments me, then BAM... automatically relegated to the "jerks who will lie to get me into bed, and then never call me" category.

Obviously, this is leftover from a terrible relationship, which thankfully, I'm not in anymore. I'm getting better. I have TFP to thank for that

In general, though... I'm pretty open when it comes to people. I don't share my personal feelings and stuff, but everyone gets a blank slate. I've found I judge people a little differently, though; one could be a complete asshole, but if we have something we can connect on, it's fine, so long as they aren't an asshole to ME.

I really like that Henry Rollins quote... it's so much easier to judge people and put them on the shelf and treat them with disdain. It's harder to overlook their imperfections and be nice to them, regardless of their past. And regardless of yours.

It seems like genuinely kind people are tough to find. So many are thinking about the bottom line, "what's in it for me?" So I strive to NOT be one of those people who's only looking out for myself.

This means I get hurt. I get burned. I get taken advantage of. And sometimes that's frustrating, but when it comes down to it, I'd rather be taken advantage of than be the one who's taking advantage of someone else.

11-04-2009, 01:01 PM	#27 (permalink)
CinnamonGirl She's Actual Size Location: Central Republic of Where-in-the-Hell	I've noticed a tendency to lean that way...but only with men. Everything's fine, until he compliments me, then BAM... automatically relegated to the "jerks who will lie to get me into bed, and then never call me" category. Obviously, this is leftover from a terrible relationship, which thankfully, I'm not in anymore. I'm getting better. I have TFP to thank for that In general, though... I'm pretty open when it comes to people. I don't share my personal feelings and stuff, but everyone gets a blank slate. I've found I judge people a little differently, though; one could be a complete asshole, but if we have something we can connect on, it's fine, so long as they aren't an asshole to ME. I really like that Henry Rollins quote... it's so much easier to judge people and put them on the shelf and treat them with disdain. It's harder to overlook their imperfections and be nice to them, regardless of their past. And regardless of yours. It seems like genuinely kind people are tough to find. So many are thinking about the bottom line, "what's in it for me?" So I strive to NOT be one of those people who's only looking out for myself. This means I get hurt. I get burned. I get taken advantage of. And sometimes that's frustrating, but when it comes down to it, I'd rather be taken advantage of than be the one who's taking advantage of someone else. __________________ "...for though she was ordinary, she possessed health, wit, courage, charm, and cheerfulness. But because she was not beautiful, no one ever seemed to notice these other qualities, which is so often the way of the world." "Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"