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crystalan · 10-30-2009, 10:20 AM

I have talked about this before a little bit here, but I'm going crazy and I don't know what to do anymore. I'm hoping maybe I can get some good input or understanding regarding my situation.

I have been dating my 23 yr. old boyfriend going on 7 months now, I am 30. We've had three serious fights, to the point where we almost broke up on two out of the three fights. We had a little dispute this last weekend about the same thing that we can't seem to get over. Which is he is always really busy now, wasn't always when we first dated. He's taking a full load at school, 5 classes, which we are taking one together. I am not that busy, I have a full time job, a couple close friends, one main one that I have all my social time with, and the one college class. I know I demand too much time with him, but it feels like he has less and less time for me over the period we've been dating.

Now we've talked about this, and this is another aspect that has been thrown in. I am bi-curious and he's told me this last weekend, so recent, to go ahead and see what it's like with a woman without him. He said that he still loves me and wants to be with me, but understands that he doesn't have all the time in the world and wants me to experience this on my own. He also said it would be different if I were to date other men, he wouldn't like that. We originally talked about having a threesome, but me being so jealous, it wasn't going to happen for now anyways. I know, not fair for him. So I know he's still into me, just is he subconciously trying to push me away? I've asked him and he says no.

I love him but also know that I am way too obsessed over him. I'm always insecure and feeling like he's going to leave me or cheat on me as well. And I think it's because I feel like he's the most amazing man I have ever been with, and there's only one other person who made me feel this way when I was 18-19 yrs. old, and he was a potential dating boyfriend who turned into a friend.

What would you do if you were me? Oh and if you know anything about astrology, our Western signs match up, me Cancer, him Pisces, but our chinese signs clash totally, me Goat, and him Tiger. I may be too soft and needy for him and he may be too independent and careless for me. That's what it feels like sometimes anyways. Let me know. And I know, long post, just needed to get this out.

10-30-2009, 10:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
crystalan Upright	Obsessed over boyfriend, advice needed I have talked about this before a little bit here, but I'm going crazy and I don't know what to do anymore. I'm hoping maybe I can get some good input or understanding regarding my situation. I have been dating my 23 yr. old boyfriend going on 7 months now, I am 30. We've had three serious fights, to the point where we almost broke up on two out of the three fights. We had a little dispute this last weekend about the same thing that we can't seem to get over. Which is he is always really busy now, wasn't always when we first dated. He's taking a full load at school, 5 classes, which we are taking one together. I am not that busy, I have a full time job, a couple close friends, one main one that I have all my social time with, and the one college class. I know I demand too much time with him, but it feels like he has less and less time for me over the period we've been dating. Now we've talked about this, and this is another aspect that has been thrown in. I am bi-curious and he's told me this last weekend, so recent, to go ahead and see what it's like with a woman without him. He said that he still loves me and wants to be with me, but understands that he doesn't have all the time in the world and wants me to experience this on my own. He also said it would be different if I were to date other men, he wouldn't like that. We originally talked about having a threesome, but me being so jealous, it wasn't going to happen for now anyways. I know, not fair for him. So I know he's still into me, just is he subconciously trying to push me away? I've asked him and he says no. I love him but also know that I am way too obsessed over him. I'm always insecure and feeling like he's going to leave me or cheat on me as well. And I think it's because I feel like he's the most amazing man I have ever been with, and there's only one other person who made me feel this way when I was 18-19 yrs. old, and he was a potential dating boyfriend who turned into a friend. What would you do if you were me? Oh and if you know anything about astrology, our Western signs match up, me Cancer, him Pisces, but our chinese signs clash totally, me Goat, and him Tiger. I may be too soft and needy for him and he may be too independent and careless for me. That's what it feels like sometimes anyways. Let me know. And I know, long post, just needed to get this out.