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Be honest with both of them. Since you were friends with benefits with the first man for awhile, I'm assuming there was no other promises or agreements of monogamy between the two of you, right? Does the second guy have any ideas that he was the only one in your life or that you two were not just a casual sex couple, but an actual couple?
Be honest with both of them and with any future flings. You just got out of this marriage, you're not looking for any long-term relationship, you're just interested in having fun... Of course I'm assuming that this is your goal!
And I completely agree with going outside of your small town to find love/sex/whatever it is you're looking for. It's not worth the gossip and drama that might come from staying too close to home.
About the moral question - I think it's ok to feel casual about what you're doing now. I don't think that or the lack of guilt makes you an immoral or bad person. I think maybe you should think long and hard on what you believe in and what you think is "moral" or "acceptable" behavior. Not just from your family's point of view or your childhood, but how you feel now.
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