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Suzz04 · 10-07-2009, 10:37 AM

The one that is having anger over it is the one that owes me.

On the other side, the trade I came up with since I know that a babysitter can turn really expensive fast. It wasn't alot of money but, I just can't stand even if it's a "oh don't worry about it" deal .. it just doesn't sit with me knowing that I borrowed money and I intend to pay it back regardless. Have been this way for years.

I don't know if the one I know had a emergency or not, but they did ask if I had the money to pay back for whatever purpose I don't know, which in turn I asked the person that owed me when it was going to be. That's when it all went into a fury of fire.

Would you buy something off someone, to pay back in payments, that you could have gotten elsewhere for the exact amount and pay all up front but not having it all to do so? Originally I thought I was helping a friend, payments cool. Now I'm not so sure I helped them or I got screwed. But I came down with needing the payback that had been told was (this was 2-3 weeks ago for the last pay back) getting sent on Wed or Thurs. Never heard again for almost 2 weeks didn't say anything to them. Then it came to me needing to borrow from someone else. Fixed my money problem and asked when I was getting the money owed to me so I could hand back to I borrowed from.

The one I borrowed from isn't angry and is happy that someone will actually keep the kid without having to scramble for a babysitter. The kid naps so I'm gonna have to have something to do. TV is boring and I've read enough books of late that I'm sick of reading. So something to do.

I just never expected the anger to come from the one that owed me after I asked when it could be. And that I'd need it to pay back the person that I borrowed from while waiting on them. Yeah, I had anger from both but I was able to get one friendship fixed and everything is back to normal. The other one refuses to speak to me and if they do, it's a pissed off tone.

I'm a door mat when it comes to try to help people out. But, I make sure that regardless I pay back those that I do borrow from when I need help. Over the years, I've loaned alot of things, plus money, and never saw it again. The stuff I expected returned but never asked, I'm a chicken for the very reason I'm in it now. That they'll get mad at me for asking to begin with. But I never expect the money back. I might be on a fixed income but I will do what I can to make sure to pay back what I owe as soon as I can. Or give back whatever was loaned in terms of material things.

I guess it's in a way one of those things you had to be there to really get a good understanding. It was like in the first beginning when the question was asked of when, it was a seriously defensive and aggressive response.

But as I said, they're still in anger, going to send the money, but I'm going to mail it back. I feel now that it's something I couldn't accept with a clear conscious.

10-07-2009, 10:37 AM	#11 (permalink)
Suzz04 Crazy Location: Virginia	The one that is having anger over it is the one that owes me. On the other side, the trade I came up with since I know that a babysitter can turn really expensive fast. It wasn't alot of money but, I just can't stand even if it's a "oh don't worry about it" deal .. it just doesn't sit with me knowing that I borrowed money and I intend to pay it back regardless. Have been this way for years. I don't know if the one I know had a emergency or not, but they did ask if I had the money to pay back for whatever purpose I don't know, which in turn I asked the person that owed me when it was going to be. That's when it all went into a fury of fire. Would you buy something off someone, to pay back in payments, that you could have gotten elsewhere for the exact amount and pay all up front but not having it all to do so? Originally I thought I was helping a friend, payments cool. Now I'm not so sure I helped them or I got screwed. But I came down with needing the payback that had been told was (this was 2-3 weeks ago for the last pay back) getting sent on Wed or Thurs. Never heard again for almost 2 weeks didn't say anything to them. Then it came to me needing to borrow from someone else. Fixed my money problem and asked when I was getting the money owed to me so I could hand back to I borrowed from. The one I borrowed from isn't angry and is happy that someone will actually keep the kid without having to scramble for a babysitter. The kid naps so I'm gonna have to have something to do. TV is boring and I've read enough books of late that I'm sick of reading. So something to do. I just never expected the anger to come from the one that owed me after I asked when it could be. And that I'd need it to pay back the person that I borrowed from while waiting on them. Yeah, I had anger from both but I was able to get one friendship fixed and everything is back to normal. The other one refuses to speak to me and if they do, it's a pissed off tone. I'm a door mat when it comes to try to help people out. But, I make sure that regardless I pay back those that I do borrow from when I need help. Over the years, I've loaned alot of things, plus money, and never saw it again. The stuff I expected returned but never asked, I'm a chicken for the very reason I'm in it now. That they'll get mad at me for asking to begin with. But I never expect the money back. I might be on a fixed income but I will do what I can to make sure to pay back what I owe as soon as I can. Or give back whatever was loaned in terms of material things. I guess it's in a way one of those things you had to be there to really get a good understanding. It was like in the first beginning when the question was asked of when, it was a seriously defensive and aggressive response. But as I said, they're still in anger, going to send the money, but I'm going to mail it back. I feel now that it's something I couldn't accept with a clear conscious. __________________ Quantum Cat Theory: Upon hearing the sound of a can being opened, it becomes possible for a cat to travel faster than the speed of light.