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If it were me, and I was a 57 year old man, I'd be comfortable dating someone in their 20s. That is, however, a little lower than the soceital expectation and I would similarly reply that I didn't care to share that bit of information. I think it demonstrates just as much about him as it does about how comfortable he feels. If he didn't feel comfortable, it might not be that it's particularly egregious, only that he doesn't think you respond well to that sort of thing - specifically since you've had previous discussions where you've disapproved.
I think that the age of consent ought to be the age of sexual maturity myself, but that doesn't, in any way, imply my desire to participate in such a thing. It is based in a belief about people having the liberty to do what they will with their bodies and minds, and not legislating what is largely a moral decision. I do think that though the age should be lowered, it should be such that it is only someone 18 years or younger can participate. In matters of adults and children, I do think we should legislate that behavior, because it seems morally and socially wrong to allow the influential power (and responsibility) of an adult to cloud the decision of a child.
There are many reasons he could feel that, and the first reason I would arrive at would not be that he actually wants to have sex with children.
But perhaps that is because there is a substantial difference in my mind between how men and women understand sex and that often men can be thinking things that (if spoken) to a woman would be entirely misrepresented or misunderstood.
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