girldetective

Mornin.

I thought that I had posted a thread about this, but looking back in archives I could not find it. Im hoping this is not redundant.

I have twice now had emotional debates with a very close friend re the age of sexual consent. He believes it should be lowered to age 12; I don't. I love this person in many ways and have given him the benefit of the doubt in his thinking because his behavior and other talk does not suggest he would be pedophilish. In addition, I believe a person can think anything they want. Thinking is silent, private, and does not impinge on another person, it is non-invasive.

Now, last week I was chatting with him and asked him what his age boundaries are for dating. He said, "I don't want to tell you". I said, "What?! Why not?" He said, "I don't want to tell you." I didn't know what to say, and left the subject right there. I thought the worst, of course.

A little background of his history includes age 57, never married, no children (thinks he might want to have a child now), porn addicted, abused himself (not remembered, but contracted genital warts somewhere between ages 8-12), gregarious, rough and tumble with a self-reported (and sometimes seen) big heart.

I had thought perhaps he was being provocative in his debates, as he often is, but now I wonder if this isnt his true way of thinking, and would he act on it? Ive seen no evidence and really dont think so, but... Would I feel comfortable now having children in his presence without supervision?

As a sanity check, what would you think?

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