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You make some very good points there, oscar, and I agree with you when you say that the problem isn't that people divorce too quickly but rather marry too quickly.
I speak from experience when I say that staying in a relationship for the sake of the kids is wrong. I won't go into the details, as they aren't important here, but kids are smart and they see everything. If the parents are miserable together it warps the way a child will view love and committment. Yes I believe that marriages require work to succeed....nothing that is worth having comes easily. But sometimes people make mistakes...and sometimes it may take a year or more to realize that. Two people who are not happy with each other and realize they never will be shouldn't stay together. I stayed in my own relationship far longer than I should have because I thought I was doing the right thing by keeping the "family unit" together.
Now we are happy. My kids don't have to hear fights, see tears. They know that they are still loved by both their Mother and Father, even if we do not live together. As far as the financial end...just because you seperate from someone does not necessarily mean children suffer financially. I provide my children with a good roof over their heads, food on the table, clothes on their back. They do not lack for a single thing due to our seperation...perhaps I have cut back a few of the "luxuries" for myself but never my kids.
To you babaloo...I am glad for you when you say you no longer feel dead inside. It's a good feeling, isn't it? I wish you all the best and I hope you do find your true love one day, be it the lady from the affair or someone you haven't yet met.
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