I was reading this articlle about why women and men tend to have a jealous bone toward a SO's ex boyfriends or girlfriends. I'm currently with Matt, we're almost to 2 months together. The only thing is his longest relationship is his current one with me. He told me in the past he has always been scared off from the commitment stuff etc. However with me I can make him laugh so apparently that's why I've lasted the longest among other reasons.
Getting to the point...I was looking through his facebook and noticed he's friends with several of his exes. One in particular bugs me just bc shes this perfect girl who he's always had a thing for. He said they dated for a month and he considered things to be pretty serious in that he liked her a lot. He broke it off because he was in the NAVY at the time and couldn't handle the long distance. We've discussed her and he's assured me he's over her.
Since then she's had a baby and gotten engaged to the father. He said her image is completely ruined since all that and just that things didn't work out. Part of me wonders though if maybe he has that "What if" syndrome. I don't think he does but it does wander across my mind from time to time. I noticed a physical pattern with the girls he's been with as well, they're all quite thin and gorgeous. Don't get me wrong I know I'm a pretty girl etc blah blah this isn't about a low self esteem and I don't want to read post reiterating that I'm pretty, meant in the most positive way mind you. I'm just curious why he's pick me out of everyone possible, I'm athletic, not stick thin and I am no where near as gorgeous as these other girls in my opinion. Which brings me to the question what does he see that I don't about my own self?
Why is it that we feel so threatened by the past that it makes us slightly doubt the future? Perhaps that just describes me. I would to hear other opinions on that.
Jealousy: Why the thought of his ex-girlfriend drives you crazy - by Krystle Hernandez - Helium