girldetective

Someone asked me the other day if I was tired of being objectified. It was enlightening. Not surprising, but that the word was put to it. Over the last 1.5 years I have felt uncomfortable, hurt, and walked away from a couple of people at various times, and then for good. Worse, I have not felt heard (even when saying I dont feel heard!). Yet, I could not put my finger on what was wrong until I heard the word objectified. There was that immediate recognition, a clarity. (no ones saying here that Im quick, obviously)

Ive been thinking about that ever since and wondering why it occurred that last year I developed a fairly close relationship with one person, and a very close relationship with another. These two people liked me as a woman, and as a human being. However, they still to this day objectify me to the point of one of them recently seeking me out in order to take me to his high school reunion on the other coast because he wanted to "walk in the door with me". The flattery is nice, but puleeze.

Now Im a pretty woman, but no more pretty than any of you or most anyone I see on the street. In fact, I have a weird quirky body. It is tall and thin, sinewy and soft at the same time. I have a waist, but really no tits, hips, or butt to speak of. I think it is really my personality, me that draws men in, but they seem to be blind to it. It seems even after knowing and loving me they continue to objectify me without regard.

My questions are: What the hell is with this? Is this a product of our society now? And, what does one do to change it?

besitos.

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