Hey All,
I was reading some posts on this great forum, and I came across a couple of member's posts where either (a) they were cheated on or (b) they were cheating on someone else.
As I was reading this, I couldn't help but feel this rising, I guess, anger at the people who cheat. Even worse were the people who cheated but kind of "got away with it" in the sense that they find a new partner while already in another relationship.
Personal experience, I know for me, after being "cheated on" by this one girl, I remained angry, *very* angry at the world for almost two years before I found someone special who really helped me extinguish that anger.
I think the anger was fueled by a mixture of betrayal, and that no justice was served. Even worse, were the friends who you would think would express disapproval at the cheater just remained neutral. Kind of a "not my problem thing."
I know during that time, I really really wanted to hurt people, but I managed to stifle it, though, I think I did lose some sanity through the process.
My question to you fellow members is this: Why do people NOT express more disapproval at people who cheat? Is it because they wish to remain neutral? Is it because culturally, we're sexually free to the point where cheating has become somewhat of a norm? Do we want to express more disapproval? Or is it better for individuals to be happy and pursue what makes them happy?
I think you people know where I stand, but I'd love to hear everyone's thoughts about cheating. To me, cheating is NOT a good thing, but we've moved away (generally, i think) from criminalizing adultery. I don't think criminalizing adultery itself is a good thing, but the lack of response towards cheaters, in my experience, has made me somewhat surprised.
Thoughts?
