The key thing is that if she does have a boyfriend you must find a way to plant in her mind that you a bigger and stronger than he is...
But I personally would just go down the line of asking her if she wants to check out a movie with you whatever.... if she has a boyfriend its not like she's going to tell him about it and he's going to march into work and try and do something over it. If you dont feel like asking her out straight until you know I would just let her know in an uncommitted way that youre interested - and if she has a man (AND if she is faithful) she'll let you know about it and then you know. I guess the issue is if she has a man but might want a bit on the side... then its a question about how you feel.
Ive never cheated on anyone myself, but Ive dated girls who had boyfriends which is barely less immoral - although not long term.
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