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ASU2003 · 08-16-2009, 01:36 PM

So, in the world of real-life dating, how does one find out if a girl already has a boyfriend? I already have to be confident enough to think she would like me if she doesn't. I would like to know if it's even worth taking the risk of talking to her or if I am just wasting my time. Coming right out and asking seems a little upfront (and awkward regardless of the answer), stalking doesn't seem right, social engineering of others is tough and risky*.

Here is the basic situation for a little context. There is a girl that works in my office building for a different company. She works second shift (12-8 pm)with two other women. It is difficult figuring out a reason to talk to her, even though it has happened once or twice, and she has to work so she is busy. And I know nothing about her compared to people with on-line profiles that may or may not exist in real life, and I have never been good at figuring out which people I would have things in common with in normal life.

*It is risky in this situation because the co-worker is someone I run into frequently at work and I don't have a real 'need to know' anything about her (the girl at the other company) unless it was relationship oriented.

08-16-2009, 01:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
ASU2003 immoral minority Location: Back in Ohio	How do you figure out if someone has a boyfriend (or girlfriend) So, in the world of real-life dating, how does one find out if a girl already has a boyfriend? I already have to be confident enough to think she would like me if she doesn't. I would like to know if it's even worth taking the risk of talking to her or if I am just wasting my time. Coming right out and asking seems a little upfront (and awkward regardless of the answer), stalking doesn't seem right, social engineering of others is tough and risky. Here is the basic situation for a little context. There is a girl that works in my office building for a different company. She works second shift (12-8 pm)with two other women. It is difficult figuring out a reason to talk to her, even though it has happened once or twice, and she has to work so she is busy. And I know nothing about her compared to people with on-line profiles that may or may not exist in real life, and I have never been good at figuring out which people I would have things in common with in normal life. It is risky in this situation because the co-worker is someone I run into frequently at work and I don't have a real 'need to know' anything about her (the girl at the other company) unless it was relationship oriented.