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Living Arrangements with your SO
ok so, the 'traditional' way to go is to share a house, a bed, and just about everything. Maaaybe have separate offices/workspaces within a shared home.
But I was thinking, though I do enjoy sharing a bed with someone I love, that sometimes, it would be nice to have a separate bedroom to myself. Selfishly, and introvertedly I guess, I like the idea of having a separate bedroom of my own.
Why should people be forced to share their bedroom? It's possibly the most private space anyone ever has, why shouldn't they have it individually?
I don't think this means that people love each other less, it just means they relish their time on their own, and are more appreciative of the moments when they do share a bedroom, because it's not just a routine.
I can imagine having a house with a bedroom for each partner, then a bedroom just for being together. Maybe this sounds crazy. But I keep thinking it would be nice. I feel like sharing a bedroom strips me of some privacy that I don't want to give up. Maybe I've been living alone for too long heh. But it would help avoid things like having to be quiet in the mornings because your SO is sleeping, or at night in a similar fashion. No more looking for clothes in semi-darkness. No more fighting over the duvet or bed space.
I know some people have separate bedrooms for more practical reasons, such as one partner snores and the other can't sleep. But that must just be depressing.
What do you think of my crazy idea? Of course, this would be a luxury, for a house with a couple you'd need 3 bedrooms just for the two, but reality aside, I think it's a good little fantasy. What do you think? Would you like to have this?
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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