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I'm sorry to hear so many people in the same boat I've found myself in. I have 3 little ones that we had in quick succession and after our third, I got snipped with her knowledge and partial blessing. Less than two months after that I got the first of many requests to get a reversal so we could have a fourth. Over the following two and a half years, this has been a constant theme in our relationship--frequently leading to arguments and unhappiness. I truly don't want another because of the cost, my age and my interest in giving my kids the attention I feel they need. However, on occasion I lapse in my resolve in the face of her continued insistence, giving in--only to back out before the procedure is done. That of course makes me the asshole.
She's a great mother and could easily handle a fourth; I'm just not ok with it for the above reasons. Unfortunately that has created a dark place in an otherwise wonderful relationship. What I find truly amazing and baffling is the desire to have another child being so strong that she's willing to damage other parts of her life to achieve it. If anyone who's felt this can elicidate and explain how you got past it, I'd be very appreciative.
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