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tenchi069 · 08-01-2009, 10:25 AM

it sounds as though you two are in a downward spiral. You don't feel like she is doing what she can to help the marriage so you get depressed and start failing to help the marriage from your side. It starts off small, on both sides. Then one day you wake up and realize that you are nowhere near the point of where you were, so now the downward spiral starts to get steeper and steeper until it gets out of control and one side gets irrepairably hurt. Only through communication with your wife can you find out if either of you are truly past that point. If you are, then little to nothing can make it work. If neither of you are past that point, then you BOTH need to work together to make it work. It will be a full time effort for the both of you, there will be little points of achievement and alot of sacrifice. It is a difficult climb back up but only you(collective) can decide if it is worth it. Don't expect to talk 1 evening with your wife and have everything magically the way it "was" in the morning. I wish you both the best.

--tenchi

08-01-2009, 10:25 AM	#75 (permalink)
tenchi069 Lost Location: One step closer to the padded cell...	it sounds as though you two are in a downward spiral. You don't feel like she is doing what she can to help the marriage so you get depressed and start failing to help the marriage from your side. It starts off small, on both sides. Then one day you wake up and realize that you are nowhere near the point of where you were, so now the downward spiral starts to get steeper and steeper until it gets out of control and one side gets irrepairably hurt. Only through communication with your wife can you find out if either of you are truly past that point. If you are, then little to nothing can make it work. If neither of you are past that point, then you BOTH need to work together to make it work. It will be a full time effort for the both of you, there will be little points of achievement and alot of sacrifice. It is a difficult climb back up but only you(collective) can decide if it is worth it. Don't expect to talk 1 evening with your wife and have everything magically the way it "was" in the morning. I wish you both the best. --tenchi __________________ ERROR- PLBSAK Problem Lies Between Seat and Keyboard.