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I'm going through something far less severe but similar; the girl i am currently dating just went through a very hard relationship that was emotionally abusive. He tended to find ways of emotionally destroying her in situations that involved sex, so our sex life has been moving at a creeping pace.
Not to sound like a dick, but most of the time I wouldn't bother; if they are in a situation where they can't move at a comfortable, normal (to them, not me), pace then they probably shouldn't be in a relationship but this is different; I'm a little more "in" then I would normally be and that makes me happy.
As for the boy i know him. When I found out I was furious, while also surprised that she would of ever given him a chance (way out of his league). Unlike most people I've met with baggage, she is incredibly open, and when she is vague I can tell; we are very good together. I think if I ever run into him I'll want to punch him in the face.
In the end I only care as much as she does. My life with her is now, not before I met her. And I care about who she is now, and part of that was bred in that shitty relationship. I celebrate the strides she makes with me, and by herself, everyday (not that it is a constant "start and stop" relationship; mostly sexual stuff which we are moving through together) . Mostly I just celebrate the fact that I'm dating a fucking gorgeous, intelligent, charming, sexy, caring, original, worthwhile girl, and I make my relationship with her about that. that and us.
It's funny, I actually logged on to post about this. Thanks.
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EX: Whats new?
ME: I officially love coffee more then you now.
EX: uh...
ME: So, not much.
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