Originally Posted by Anonymous Member

OP again. So, to be clear, I work full-time, my wife stays home and takes care of the kids. Yes, that's work too, no denying. Also, in my defense, she's said the *exact* same thing to me, in a joking way, when the situation was reversed, so I was partly copying that. I really don't think was being passive-aggressive or manipulative, though. I can see how she may have taking it the wrong way, though. Probably part of the reason I was so upset though is that I feel like I do at *least* my fair share of the housework, sometimes more. She's had several girls nights out lately - more than I'd be ok with on a regular basis, but she's got a new friend, so that's fine. My problem was that I'd gone out of my way to let her have her fun, and then got pooped on over a flippant comment.

To make matters worse, when I told her how I felt in the morning (she stayed out until after midnight), she threw it right back at me, and said that it was demeaning of me to say that. I could see that if I always made her, or expected her to do the dishes, but I don't. I do the dishes maybe half the time. So, I spent a good solid two days too pissed off to deal with it, then we had a talk and got over it. I see her point of view, I made sure she understood mine. I understand that I overreacted to her attitude, and she understands that she overreacted to my comment.

I think, another 200 years or so of marriage and I'll about have it figured out. Maybe 300.