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Originally Posted by jewels
Listen to Gucci. It's just another growing pain, another new step in your life.
No amount of preparation really prepares you mentally for what's ahead, so as it approaches and arrives, it's very scary for the new father. Not only is it about responsibility and commitment, but you realize your relationship and time with your wife will change.
Talk to her about your feelings and fears, be there for her and the baby, and maintain your good friends. You're gonna be a great dad as long as you don't expect yourself to be some idea of perfect dlish/husband/father/employee/man you've got in your head.  |
jewels...you just broke my spirit..are you saying im not perfect?!?!
i dont know what to expect. LT put it perfectly. that book should read "dlishs' life".
my problem is that i dont share a lot of my deep and personal thoughts to many. if i do, i scatter my ramblings amongst a few people, but i dont tell 1 person everything. its my safety net i guess.
living apart from family in another part of the world makes it hard to call someone up and speak to them. ive got advantages of living an expat life, but it does have its disadvantages too. this is one of them.
she-lish bought a book when she fell pregnant. it was almost an encyclopedia. a step by step guide of what you should or shouldnt be feelings, things to do, not do, what to expect etc. theres no such book that im aware of for men. we are left in the lurch expecting the unexpected. i dont know how to act, what to do, what to expect. i've probably been a party to that by burying my head in the sand, but this isnt going to go away.
for me its not about the attention i get. it really comes down to a change in lifestyle, and whether im prepared for it