genuinegirly

What do you consider a healthy relationship?
How much sex does it involve?
Does it include marriage?
Do you find you're able to develop a better relationship with the opposite sex or the same sex?
Have you ever been in a truly healthy relationship, or do you just dream?
Do you feel you're capable of having a healthy relationship?
If you have a healthy one, do you feel obligated to share your secrets on keeping a healthy relationship with your friends who ask how you do it?

I keep thinking about these questions as my husband and I seem to constantly offering advice to our friends who are running into brick walls with their relationships. Cheating seems entirely common, lack of sex drive equally so. Communication seems key to me - it seems to be lacking in nearly all of the relationships that fall apart around us. It's difficult for me to understand how relationships so frequently go awry. Tt and I are so happy together - we work to make each other happy, though sometimes it comes easy. Maybe we're still in the honeymoon phase and haven't dealt with any real hurdles - or maybe we're just well-matched. Whatever it is, we feel an obligation to be open with our friends when they ask us what we do to keep our relationship strong and each other happy. At times I think it might be wise for us to formally learn how to advise other couples, rather than just sharing what works for us. But sometimes we don't feel like sharing. Sometimes the things that work for us seem entirely private and special - do we share these too, or risk giving an incomplete picture? I seem to err on the side of sharing too much, but is this a good thing overall? Recently I've begun to think that I should keep my mouth shut and let people work things out for themselves. Everyone is different, afterall.

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"Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq

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