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Males and females have two major problems selecting each other for long term relationships. Our selections are marred by over-prioritized traits.
Males are attracted to women's physical beauty in a disporportion to their desired behavioral traits. Would you rather marry an ugly woman who you loves you unquestionably or a beautiful bitch? Logically, the devotional woman will do more for your long term happiness, so how come the beatiful body and face is still such a tempting offer? Isn't this the equivalent to choosing your next car based on its paint color? What men want and what men need are often involved in this classic conflict.
In a similar way, a fair few females are attracted by male confidence and dominance. It's one of those things built in, one they may not be able to explain themselves. This is why some women like "bad boys." They are the ones giving orders, not taking crap from anyone, and being spontaneous. This is attractive to women at a base level and does not conform to rules of logic or personality selection. What many women fail to grasp is that this is exactly as shallow as men prioritizing women by beauty. Eventually she will tell her bad boy"No" but it doesn't stop him because she picked a guy who won't take crap from anyone. What some women want and what they need are often in conflict.
RC this relates to you because as you stand your fiance may very well fall into the above category. The stupid part is that she chose correctly to be with you. You care about here, that is obvious. Not only do you do stuff for her because you want to, you are consistent, wouldn't think of violence towards her, and loyal. You are what she needs. Unfortunately, it appears you are not what she wants.
Your situation would be the equivalent if she caught you looking at better looking women and asked "Do you want me to work out more so I could look like her?" and you sighed and roboticly responded "no honey, I think you look fine how you are now."
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