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I'm pretty certain that this is the kind of polarizing thing that necessitates "guys nights" and "girls nights." This was a gripe by a man, who like many, seems to be incapable of communicating on the same page as his girlfriend / wife. We speak different languages. I can see how a woman can read this story and be peeved at his 'expectation' and his 'belittling comment', just as I see how a man reads this story and sees a man who tried to joke and then make up for it, and (by his estimation) treated poorly as a result.
I've seen so many conversations (and been part of as many) that went like this:
F: "Do you want to go tommorow?"
M: "I don't know, do you want to go?"
F: "I'm not sure if I want to go."
M: "Oh, okay.. we don't have to go."
F: "If you didn't want to go, you could've just said something."
On one hand the man thinks he's helping the woman rationalize not going, and on the the other hand the woman is trying to decide if the man wants to go, and it appears that he doesn't but is going now out of guilt.
I'm not sure it's entirely resolvable, other than being aware of the fact that it's just going-to-happen.
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