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I suppose I can't talk much because I have no experience with outright casual sex, though I've had some short flings. But, I tend to think that, sex will be more mind-blowing with someone you can trust completely, than with a stranger. I think I would totally hold back and be shy with a stranger. I let myself go more with someone who I know enjoys me as a whole. I have plenty of monkey sex with the men I'm crazy about. I don't see the benefit of having a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits. Unless I really want sex and am not in a relationship. But then I tend to just go without if that happens. I think I can separate the physical aspect from the emotional one. But I rather like it when the two are combined. Mind and body sex - far better.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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