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Before I read all the replies, I want to type my own. I chose other.
I think it depends on the motive behind the apology. If a person is apologizing just because they don't want a confrontation, or because they think that is what the other person wants to hear, but they are not truly sorry for whatever they did (or didn't do) - to me, this shows weakness, they are taking the easy way out of a situation.
Example: Sometimes when arguing with my son, he will not let go of the issue, he keeps talking and talking (usually yelling)... I say "sorry" in hopes to end the argument, not because I was wrong. I always feel crappy after that.
On the other hand, if the apology was heartfelt, not brought out because of fear of confrontation or avoiding the issue, then this shows strength. Admitting you were wrong and taking responsibility for it shows strength.
Example: Sometimes when my daughter and I fight, I don't always think about what I am saying, or how I am saying it, and I hurt her feelings when I didn't intend to. We walk away from each other, angry, and later, after thinking about what was said, I go back, hug her and apologize, trying to explain to her that I don't always think before I speak.
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