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Old 07-06-2009, 12:16 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Baraka_Guru View Post
Yet, many of us don't set goals. Ever. I've known about the importance of goals since the end of the '90s, and yet I've yet to *ever* set comprehensive goals and seriously work on them, paying the necessary price to achieve them. I've been floundering around not knowing what I want to be or want to get out of life, and here I am...currently unsatisfied both financially and vocationally, even personally.

Why is it most of us don't set goals?

In my case, I think it's a fear of failure. I struggled for a while to determine whether it was a fear of success. Maybe it's a bit of that too, which makes my case particularly difficult. I've programmed myself for self-sabotage. I'd sooner shut down, mentally and physically, than break out of my comfort zone and go for what's good for me in terms of success. I've been that way my whole life. I'm a master at settling for well below my capabilities. It's so difficult reprogramming something so deeply rooted, but here I am. Again.
The grass is always greener.

I have tried setting goals, and not setting goals. I'm still not satisfied.

The self sabatoge and discussion of fear of failure/success is always a good one.
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