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some good advice here, but the truth is that there are some real good books out there on being a "pickup artist". there's even an acronym "pua" thats used in a lot of chat rooms and forums around the web. these books and methods delve into social psychology and communication (both non-verbal and verbal) and give a lot of people a toolset to go out there and attract someone that you might have thought "out of your league" before you learned how to interact.
a lot of women find this stuff offensive and claim it's foul and manipulative, and i agree with some of that... for instance, a lot of guides encourage you to give women backhanded compliments so that they're insecure enough to value your company more at the time. but there's other stuff.... stuff like body position, breaking the ice by talking over your shoulder like you're about to take off somewhere, creating a time constraint... that i'd say is more a matter of learning what does and doesn't pigeonhole you into the cassanova category you want to be in.
overall, i consider this a grey area, and a set of social tools that can be used for evil, like manipulating girls to get with you, or for good, just so that you're charming enough to find the girl of your dreams and seriously date her.
if you want bubble gum, pickup artists for dummies kind of stuff, google "pickup artist mystery" (it's a dude's name), and check out his body of work and forums. if you want more scholarly stuff, i reccomend the book "the art of seduction". it takes a look at 12 or so archetypes of seductive people and compares them to historical figures and their methods, to the point where you can identify with one of them and focus on that kind of toolset.... kind of like astrology and your sign.
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-my phobia drowned while i was gettin down.
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