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InTransition951 · 06-14-2009, 12:50 AM

it seems that i havent been on this forum for awhile. but i just couldnt find the answer to this question anywhere else. so i might as well ask it here.

so heres a backstory. i joined a church youth group earlier this year and i got to know a lot of people. most of the people are around the age group of 18-26 but some also include some high schoolers and some middle aged but young minded adults.

so anyways, i befriended and got to know mostly everyone in the group in a short amount of time. but one thing that bothers me is, there is this one girl in my group that has a crush on me.

the problem about that is, is that she is going to be a sophomore in high school at the age of 15 and i am 20 going to college. on top of that, i do not really have any feelings for her but i see her more as a little sister type of person. i mean, her immediate family are all friends of mine too with her parents being mentors to me, her older sister also being a good friend, along with her 3 yr old sister.

at first when i joined the church youth group tho, i kinda suspected that she did kinda like me then. because of me being isolated with her answering to my remarks in a group conversation, me catching her staring at me and quickly looking away practically every time i see her, joining herself into my conversations, and when she talks to me, she sounds so fast and nervous and everything.

so i thought this was nothing at first. and i just ignored this thinking that she'll just forget about this feeling after a couple of months. but now, i still see it when i go over to her house (we hold youth gatherings there), to church, to events, to hang out with the group, especially after today.

and as i was driving home after that, i was just concerned how i am going to handle this. i dont really know what to do with a developing teenage girl's feelings as i have never encountered it before. and it would suck to see her sad too while playing bass up on stage. but yeah, i do love her in the sense that she is like a little sister to me (i am an only child) and i look out for her and others in the group. but i dont like her in that sense though. and i do know how chaotic a teenage mind can be just from my Ex girlfriend in high school and going through some stuff myself back then.

i know what rejection can do to you when you experience it the first time too because, i been through that too before. so my question is,

but how can i let her know that i am not interested and that i still like her in a family sort of way?

just to add to this, she was home schooled for just about all of her school life where shes only been through her freshman year of public high school.

06-14-2009, 12:50 AM	#1 (permalink)
InTransition951 Upright Location: Northern CA	what to do with younger teenage girls it seems that i havent been on this forum for awhile. but i just couldnt find the answer to this question anywhere else. so i might as well ask it here. so heres a backstory. i joined a church youth group earlier this year and i got to know a lot of people. most of the people are around the age group of 18-26 but some also include some high schoolers and some middle aged but young minded adults. so anyways, i befriended and got to know mostly everyone in the group in a short amount of time. but one thing that bothers me is, there is this one girl in my group that has a crush on me. the problem about that is, is that she is going to be a sophomore in high school at the age of 15 and i am 20 going to college. on top of that, i do not really have any feelings for her but i see her more as a little sister type of person. i mean, her immediate family are all friends of mine too with her parents being mentors to me, her older sister also being a good friend, along with her 3 yr old sister. at first when i joined the church youth group tho, i kinda suspected that she did kinda like me then. because of me being isolated with her answering to my remarks in a group conversation, me catching her staring at me and quickly looking away practically every time i see her, joining herself into my conversations, and when she talks to me, she sounds so fast and nervous and everything. so i thought this was nothing at first. and i just ignored this thinking that she'll just forget about this feeling after a couple of months. but now, i still see it when i go over to her house (we hold youth gatherings there), to church, to events, to hang out with the group, especially after today. and as i was driving home after that, i was just concerned how i am going to handle this. i dont really know what to do with a developing teenage girl's feelings as i have never encountered it before. and it would suck to see her sad too while playing bass up on stage. but yeah, i do love her in the sense that she is like a little sister to me (i am an only child) and i look out for her and others in the group. but i dont like her in that sense though. and i do know how chaotic a teenage mind can be just from my Ex girlfriend in high school and going through some stuff myself back then. i know what rejection can do to you when you experience it the first time too because, i been through that too before. so my question is, but how can i let her know that i am not interested and that i still like her in a family sort of way? just to add to this, she was home schooled for just about all of her school life where shes only been through her freshman year of public high school. __________________ looking young can be fun at times in some situations. but many older people do not take you so seriously.